Even after an awkward first encounter things can still work out..

Right Out of the Roaring 20’s

Nadia and Damian

A girl walked into a bar on her 28th birthday and thought, “Wow, this guy’s really interesting,” but “Oh, his friend looks cute too, so maybe I’ll make out with his friend.” In Nadia’s defense, she had been celebrating. The next day upon sober reflection with a friend, Nadia thought, “Oh, I remember what he was saying to me and he was a really nice guy. I should hook him up with my sister!” They lived right down the road from one another and Nadia thought he was a bit too old for her.

Nadia happened to have obtained Damian’s number. When Damian received the text he thought Nadia was texting his friend she made out with but Nadia wanted to find out what he was doing and could they maybe meet up in the next couple of days. “Yeah, that would be great” he texted back. They met up and as fate would have it Nadia’s sister was too tired to meet up right away and suggested she would meet up with Damian and his friends later. Nadia and Damian were by themselves at first and had a chance to walk and get to know each other. Despite what happened at the bar, Damian felt there was a strong connection right away. Nadia soon decided that she was keeping Damian for herself.

By the way, his friend was invited to the wedding.

Nadia knew right away that Damian was the one, but he was just like, “I didn’t know that right away!”. Nadia’s Mom was worried she might get hurt. In typical Mom fashion, she said, “Who’s this guy you’re going to see? You know, guys only want one thing!” Mom! Nadia knew that wasn’t the case with Damian.

Damian and Nadia lived in two different cities–Vancouver and Victoria. Damian had just come out of a relationship, so he wasn’t really ready to jump into another serious relationship. Having Nadia live in a different city gave him the space he needed. Damian knew a little less than a year into the relationship that she was the one.Nadia played it very cool and “pretended” she was coming over to see her sister who lived down the road and “Oh by the way should we get together and catch up?” However, after a few dates, the weekends turned into ski trips and once they spent five days together on a road trip to go snowboarding. There’s nothing like a few risky situations on snowboards to bring a couple together and after a year it got more serious and Nadia moved to Vancouver.

Unfortunately, Damian ruptured his Achilles tendon playing beach volleyball shortly after they moved in together. He ended up at UBC hospital and called Nadia and said “Hey, I’ve got bad news”. I literally can’t walk, I’m in a wheelchair, basically, for a while.” That led to Damian taking two and a half months off work, crutches and a wheelchair and Nadia was basically his nurse. Nadia was a real trooper and came in and really showed Damian what a true partner can be from the get-go which was pretty amazing for him. 

They then moved to Victoria after having bought a house site unseen–Damian taking on a new job and Nadia starting a business.

Damian had the ring for quite some time before the proposal. They talked about it for a long time. They were like, “We would definitely marry each other”. The year they moved back to Victoria, Damian was ready to pop the question, but with Nadia starting a business, his new job, and it being the first time they had ever owned a house together, there was a lot to figure out, and it was “kind of a stressful six months.” Damian wanted to get through that without popping a question and putting a wedding on top of all that “mess.” Damian said it was probably just his logical brain working in overtime.

They both knew it was going to happen. Damian had a plan but then he threw the plan out the window. They were heading home on New Years’ Eve Day from having spent Christmas with the family. They had some time before the ferry so they stopped at Lynn Canyon to go for a walk. The light was coming through the trees and the river was sparkling–it was just beautiful. Damian knew this was the spot. On the ferry they saw a pod of over two hundred dolphins–what a lovely sign. They got to celebrate both New Years’ Eve and their engagement with family and friends.

Communication was key for Nadia and Damian having gone through the moves and the achilles injury and new jobs.

Just let things happen and trust that things will work out. Nadia was not stressed out–she just played it cool and had the attitude “what happens, will happen.”

Damian stated, “We’re two different people and we argue and we’re both pretty stubborn people too, but I think we both get to a point where if we’ve had a disagreement, before we go to bed definitely, we reconcile whatever the difference is, or we put it aside. We don’t go to bed angry.”

Nadia and Damian also have a “relationship book” based on their birthdays and horoscopes which highlights their strengths and weaknesses. One of the things to watch for is to not take each other for granted. Nadia explained the book says we’re best in marriage and worst in friendship. Damian commented, “I still thing you’re my best friend.” Me too, said Nadia. Well there you go, maybe it means you need the bond of marriage sometimes to make the best of your friendship.

You’re Everything I Never Knew I Always Wanted….

Ed and Dar

Ed was newly-single and it had been only weeks since his “practice” marriage had ended.  He was not at all interested in meeting anyone. Dar had been lured into going on a couple of dates set up by their friend that were less than acceptable. This same friend had a new boat that he wanted to take out for Labour Day Weekend.  His girlfriend had said she wouldn’t go out alone with him.  Ed agreed to go to help his friend.  Dar agreed to go on the boat trip because “What the hec” she had no other plans for the weekend and their mutual friend had agreed to return her to shore no questions asked if she didn’t like his friend, Ed. 

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They all met at the friends’ home on Saturday and Dar knew immediately that Ed was different than the other men she had met–more of a gentleman.  Ed says he knew immediately that Dar couldn’t possibly be interested in him.  They went shopping for provisions for the boat trip.  As they wound their way through the deli, discovering that they both liked pickled eggs and smoked salmon, they fell in love.  

More than chemistry there was an ability to see into each other on a deeper level and by the end of the weekend, they were engaged to be married. There was no grand gesture–down on one knee or a ring–just an understanding that they would be together. They had even discussed how many kids they would have. 

After docking, back at Dar’s place they continued the conversation–how would they proceed as they did not live in the same city and Ed was leaving the next day.  Ed was convinced Dar would never call him. When Dar arrived at work the next day, she received a huge bouquet of roses with a note saying thank you for the best weekend of my life.  

They hadn’t told anyone that they were engaged after the weekend on the boat because they were too embarassed–afraid people would not understand. Ed and Dar spent every weekend together commuting back and forth and a couple of months later, Dar quit her job and moved to be with Ed.  In November Ed met Dar’s parents and Ed asked Dar’s father for permission to marry his daughter.  They were thrilled to have Ed join the family and the wedding would go ahead.  There was just one hitch–they both needed to make their divorces final.  They used the same lawyer and the day after the divorce came through they were married just a over a year later.  

Ed and Dar would not necessarily recommend getting engaged after just a weekend together.  That was chemistry and in Ed’s words, “Don’t fall for chemistry–chemistry goes away.  It’s about holding out for someone who is a soul mate.”

Ed showed up with a “new to me” car because I had mentioned that the first gear was gone on my car.  Ed knew I loved Gund stuffed animals so every time he showed up he had a Gund stuffed animal with him to the point where they had to add a rider on their home insurance.  Although there have been these grand gestures throughout their relationship—Dar still has to be careful about what she would like because Ed will get it for her—she believes it is what you do on a daily basis that matters most.  Every single morning Ed delivers Dar a latte in bed.  Every day they find something that would make the day better for the other person.  Often its smaller things like picking up someone’s favourite cheese when you are out grocery shopping or watching a show that they like.  It could be a phone call asking if there is anything they can do to make the other’s day better.  

For the 37 years that they have been together, every morning that they haven’t woken up together, Ed writes a love letter to Dar.  Dar now has stacks of these books, each bound with a red ribbon. 

Early in the relationship Dar said “I’m 100 percent accountable for us having a great relationship.” If you each believe this, Ed states, “it isn’t a 50/50 relationship, it’s 100/100 with each of you putting in 100 percent effort.  While Ed claims, “I am responsible for us having a great marriage–you don’t even have to do anything Dar.  It’s easy if you are in a relationship with the right person.”

Fay and Ken

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In 1949, I was a 17-year old kid venturing forth from the confines of a tiny hamlet called Snowflake, Canada to the bright lights of Pilot Mound–a town of 700,  20 miles away. I boarded with a local family while taking my Grade XII.  Soon after arriving and when the ice was in the skating rink I was recruited by the Pilot Mound Pepperettes girls’ hockey team to play defence.  I knew very little about the rules of hockey and not a great deal more when the season was over, but had a wonderful time being a part of that early team.  Out on the ice from the age of 5 and always wearing boys’ hockey skates I was a strong fast skater.  Ken saw me playing and decided he wanted to meet the newest player. There were regular dances held in a number of small town community halls and at a dance hall at a local lake.  These dances with the Royal Canadians Band playing, provided the first opportunity for Ken and I to meet.  After one such dance, he asked to take me home. I said “No” but told him that in his deaf ear so when he came to pick me up at the end of dance, I decided  “oh well, whatever”  and that was the beginning of our relationship.  We went to these dances together but I also went to the dances with other guys from the Pilot Mound United Church Young Peoples’ club.  Commenting about Ken, my boarding-home mom, told me that he was not too bad a guy; his parents were fine people and he was certainly better than his wild friend.

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Ken and I continued to date during my Grade XII year with my interest in other boys gradually decreasing.  On the night of my graduation, a friend had organized a progressive dinner and I invited Ken to the dinner and the graduation dance afterward.  The Fall of 1950 found me attending Success Commercial College in Winnipeg with Ken working in the winter at the Canada Packers plant. 

During the farming season, Ken would drive in from Pilot Mound on the weekend and we would go on double dates with friends. The city offered many fun places for young people in 1951, fine restaurants like Rae and Jerry’s which is still open today, night clubs where famous entertainers and orchestras performed, and architecturally stunning movie theatres.

Over the course of our time together, I fell in love with Ken.  I had given up an earlier goal of becoming a social worker knowing that I wanted to be where Ken was, understanding  that eventually we would be on a farm at Pilot Mound.  I took an Executive Secretarial course and boarded with some family friends.  

The Propo

I don’t exactly remember how Ken proposed.  Unknown to me, he had selected a beautiful engagement and wedding ring set and one night he asked if I would accept the ring.  I said, “Yes.”  After graduation, I began working as the secretary for the President of Success Commercial College.  When I applied for a new job in the editorial Department of the Country Guide and Public Press, working as personal secretary to the editor, I removed my ring and put it safely away for a year.  In those days women wearing engagement rings were thought to be only temporarily in the work force and I would never have acquired the position. In the spring of 1953 I began wearing it again and we started to plan a fall wedding.  My mother, an excellent seamstress, fashioned a beautiful ice-blue satin and lace wedding dress for me. In the fall of 1953 we were married in Snowflakeunnamed-2United Church.  The reception was held in my parents’ living room. 

After another eighteen months of city living with Ken working at Trans Canada Airlines (now Air Canada) our life of adventures as a farming team unnamed-1began when we moved to the family farm.  Our first daughter was a tiny tot and that first fall we welcomed another little daughter to the family. Although rural electrification had come to Manitoba farms in 1948, 1955 was still on the periphery of almost pioneer times with no indoor plumbing.  Ice wells were still in use and cream separators, cook stoves, washboards, butter churns all had a place in our life.  Before too many years, several labour-saving appliances lightened the work load for both of us.

Our family grew to include four daughters and one son, all very healthy children the raising of whom provided us with a million adventures. While our family was young, kind parents on both sides of the family gave generously of their time taking care of the children to allow us little holidays.

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When asked for “words of wisdom” as to how we were able to build an enduring and happy relationship for 61 years a few thoughts come to mind. Firstly, Ken and I were both very hard workers.  We had great respect for each other—I knew that Ken’s handshake sealed a deal; and he knew that if someone was my friend they were a friend forever.

Of course there were quarrels and disappointments, one with the other, as it is impossible to always have smooth sailing–there were several “adventures.”  I didn’t particularly like working with Ken on the farm.  There were never instructions and he was quite impatient.  Ken thought he could drive through sloughs with his tractor and then he’d get stuck, and say to me, “Hop on this tractor–pull out the throttle gradually and put it in forward and pull me out of the mud.”  We were moving cattle from one pen to another and he asked me to stand in front of a bunch of cattle as they would try to escape.  There was no way I was standing in front of a herd of cattle as they stampeded toward me, and I got into trouble for jumping out of the way.  Once a half-dead frozen calf had been carried in from a field to be dried off in front of the oven and laid to rest in the bathtub while Ken was curling.  The calf came to life and was running around the kitchen–and when I called Ken he told me to tie it to the leg of the kitchen table as he had to finish his curling game.

However, we were able to “fill gaps”—where one was weak in a certain area the other was strong. We were equally committed to giving our kids opportunities to get off to a good start in life, regretting that for too many years money was in short supply.

Although we loved traveling together and managed to visit several countries, we also went on separate holidays.  Being free to pursue individual interests and have some time away from each other strengthened our marriage. Ken loved going on hunting, fishing, and curling trips with buddies; and I travelled as a member of the Manitoba Ladies Curling Association, giving curling clinics around southern Manitoba and coaching youth curlers.  I went on Toastmistress trips to conventions and once went to Edmonton for a two-week horse camp.  There were always new stories of adventures to share when we would return home.

Community volunteering was important to both of us. No matter what we were involved in individually–whether for Ken it might be starting a Manitoba/ North Dakota golf tournament, the Border Classic, the Sportsman Bonspiel, building a swimming pool, running a Car Bingo to put artificial ice in the curling rink; for me, chairing the pool committee for over a decade, starting a foundation, heading church dinners, being on the funding raising committee for the Pilot Mound Millenium Recreation Complex–we often worked side by side supporting each other.

We enjoyed many family gatherings throughout the decades with our big extended family, both his and mine–all of which played a part in strengthening our relationship.

Underlying our marriage was a deep unspoken commitment that we would try to build a happy and stable home for our children.  After 61 years we found ourselves with a wonderfully large family of children, grandchildren and great grandchildren who  brought us great joy through the long years of our marriage.

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***This love story is particularly near and dear to me as Ken and Fay are my parents.  Although my father is no longer with us to tell his side of the story, I can honestly say that he adored my mom.

 

 

 

 

 

Ben and Julie

 

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Julie and Ben met online through a dating app called JSwipe. They went on their first date to a wine bar in the lower east side of Manhattan and had dinner and drinks. It went well, however, it was the second date where Ben realized how easy and natural it was to be together.

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Ben knew Julie was the one when he took her home to Florida to meet his family and everything felt so comfortable. There was no particular defining moment for Julie just a gradual growth into a beautiful, natural partnership.

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IMG_2389After a year and a half of dating, Ben proposed on the balcony of their hotel room in Florida.  He had arranged for a photographer and for Julie’s parents to be there so they could all celebrate together

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Wedding

When their large wedding plans had to be postponed due to Covid, they decided to stick to their original date—not an easy decision given that Ben’s parents wouldn’t be there in person. About fifty close family members and their bridal party attended a virtual live wedding thanks to Zoom on their original wedding day. All the guests received a video and pictures the next day.  They have rescheduled the party to September and if that doesn’t work, they also have a date late in 2021.

The Wisdom

Ben and Julie have already handled their first major challenge with grace. So, what makes Julie and Ben work so naturally together? Julie had this to say:

“We are our own people, but we are stronger together.  I’ve always been independent and Ben also likes to do his own thing – so we both have our own lives. We have our own friends, our own jobs and ambitions, and often – our own ideas of a fun Friday night. So, if I am making plans to go out, I know Ben will be happy to have a night home in sweatpants by himself. We LOVE to do things together and be together, but we also find happiness and fulfillment from things outside of each other. I think that is super important to sustain happiness. We also make a good team. Ben is cool, calm and collected. I am reactive, passionate and intense. When you put us together, we have the right amount of fire and ice. Lastly, I think we just have a level head (collectively) and try and put things in perspective. This whole ordeal has been challenging and emotional, but we are also able to realize that we still have each other and our relationship, which is, by far, the most important thing.”

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The World Needs Your Love Stories

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Broadcast Love started out as a mother’s response to a feeling of frustration and helplessness—what could I do to counteract all the hate that we hear about on the news. I was initially inspired by this father’s conversation with his young son about the terrorist attacks in France. It highlighted for me, the need to explain terrorism to children in a manner that reduces their anxiety.

Terrorist attacks and hate crimes are affecting a generation of children and how they view the world—making them anxious and fearful. I believe we have a responsibility to show them that there is more love than hate in the world. So, it’s with this thought in mind that I have started to record people’s love stories and broadcast them on social media.

Stories of love don’t always have to involve a romantic partner. Wonderful stories can also come from a relationship between a man and his dog, a child and their kitten, fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, and so much more!

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